• Ash Smithies

It probably seemed like I was pretty confident in my love life...

Updated: May 12, 2020

From the outside looking in, it probably seemed like I was pretty confident in my love life.

I’d never stay single for long, and I’d always had really respectful and genuine partners.

But what people didn't see was the inner struggle I faced for over 10 years trying to be the exact person that I perceived my partner to want.

If they were into deep house music and bush doofs, so was I.

They were obsessed with football? I’d know every player's name on the team.

They were doing a triathlon? Sign me up.

This went on for over 10 years and spanned across 5 serious relationships from the age of 16. It was exhausting looking back. I was constantly chopping and changing who I was because I believed that's how I would earn my worthiness. I believed it would make me lovable.

But what I learned was that this was an incredibly unhealthy way to relate to one another.

By not having my own interests, my own opinions, my own goals, my own life… I had handed over my happiness and power to my partner for them to control.

If they didn’t give me the attention that I craved, all hell would break loose. The only way I knew how to feel happy was through their actions. I had no other source of fulfilment outside of my relationship.

That’s a lot of pressure to put on someone to make you feel whole. To make you feel worthy. To make you feel fulfilled.

But I am so grateful that I was able to break free from this pattern. And it all started with my self- awareness, my rituals, and the reprogramming of my subconscious mind.

I have 2 spots available for my 3-month private coaching program using the proven method CONSCIOUSNESS COACHING ™. Starting in February, together we will go through an intensive and supportive transformation to rewire your subconscious mind. This program will leave you feeling empowered and confident to change your behaviours and ultimately improve your love life.

The application form is here and I would love to chat with you if you’re interested😘