I can honestly say that my relationships have been my greatest lessons in life.
I hear a lot of people say that "you need to be alone to fully find yourself and to know what you want".
But I disagree.
I believe you can find yourself in relationships as well.
No matter what stage of my life, my partners have always reflected back my wounds and pain that I was ready to heal.
One of the biggest examples of this was when I was 26 years old and experiencing crippling jealousy around other females interacting with my partner. I didn't understand why I was so affected by it. We would argue almost every weekend about my jealousy and insecurities and each time I was putting it back on him and his actions changing.
Obviously this didn't work.
It wasn't about him. It was about me. It was about my perceptions and my thought patterns that were so deeply rooted in the belief that - I wasn't good enough for him.
I was always that person who jumped from relationship to relationship.
Each lasting roughly two years and always going through the same pattern over and over again.
I would go through the honeymoon phase. I would start to feel the vulnerability hangover of showing them 'too much' of me too soon, and I would second guess if they were still interested. I would feel jealous of their female friends, have unhealthy and manipulative arguments, and resort to binge drinking alcohol so I could feel a fake boost of confidence. In almost every relationship I had, I cheated on my partner while I was drunk, which usually resulted in the relationship breaking up.
It took me 10 years to break this vicious cycle that I was stuck in.
It's now become my mission to help other women break free from their unwanted patterns in relationships.
After studying this method of coaching called CONSCIOUSNESS COACHING™ in 2017-2018, I now work with women all over the globe to help them create a different experience within their relationships.
After months of coaching, I was finally able to rebuild my self-worth and inner strength.
I'll never forget how empowered I felt after my first ever coaching session with Eryka Stanton in Melbourne. I realised how much I'd been suppressing in my life that was impacting my view of myself. One of the biggest events being a sexual assault that I'd never spoken about before. Something that I'd pushed down for 7 years and pretended never happened.
That was when I realised how powerful our subconscious minds are. I thought because my conscious mind wasn't thinking about this event that it wasn't affecting me. But in my subconscious mind, I was experiencing shame, judgement and disgust in myself. A recipe for disaster for a 20 something-year-old girl who wasn't sure who she was yet.
After investing in my personal and spiritual growth, I was able to take back control of my life. My behaviours changed and the impact that had on my relationship was incredible. I witnessed first hand how different my outside experience was when I improved my relationship with myself. My inner world became safe and I finally felt worthy.
PRAISE FROM CLIENTS
"I had the most amazing experience with Ash. I completed the six-session program after a breakup as I had lost self-esteem and confidence. Ash was the most non-judgmental coach who supported me so well throughout the program. I feel like what Ash is doing is so important for women, and I believe she was put here to do this work as she is such a natural healer. I have been trying to find the tools to cope for years through psychologists, but have never had any luck until now. I am so grateful to Ash for her kindness, intelligence, wisdom and the tools she has provided me."
"When I began my journey with Ash I had lost all self-worth which was impacting the way I was behaving in relationships and saw me lose confidence in my career. Through my lack of self-love I was attracting the wrong type of romantic relationships and was struggling to see a way out of my career black hole.
Ash’s coaching allowed me to open up in ways I didn’t think possible. Ash always knew the right questions to ask and gave me practical exercises to re-discover my self-worth. I now truly believe that I only deserve the best and I won’t settle for anything less thanks to Ash and her incredible empowerment coaching. "
"Ash is one of the most authentic coaches I have had! She truly cares, listens intently and asks the right questions. I feel more confident in my abilities and am backing myself, something Ash helped immensely with! I've had some incredible breakthroughs over the last few months and have looked forward to every session with Ash because post-session I always came out with such clarity, focus and powerful revelations."
"I came to Ash feeling lost and battling with my self-esteem and sense of self-worth. Ash was able to help me begin to work past these barriers and give me the tools to work on this area of my life. Since working with Ash, I have some great new practices that I am implementing daily, I have a 6-month plan to move forward with my business and I have genuinely noticed a change in my energy, attitude, level of self-belief and most importantly, I feel connected to myself again."